WaHiki is all about wellness and that includes mental wellness…and we have a little magical life lesson to share with you. YOU are the creator of your own reality. No one else can create your life for you … it’s yours to do all on your own! When you step into this very powerful belief that you are the creator or manifesto of everything in your environment. It is a very empowering standpoint. Because you realise that if you can make it, you can change it. Your beliefs, your thoughts and your emotions all come back to you as the world around you. Your external world experiences are simply a mirror of yourself and your energy that emanates. It reflects what you think, feel and believe, it will expose to you how you operate. If only you would take notice. If you are bothered or annoyed with something or someone, all of a sudden what you see is that other people who act ‘annoyed’ or are ‘annoying’ will pop into your focus. If you don’t respect yourself then others won’t respect you. If you don’t believe you are worthy of a pay increase or a promotion then guess what? Others will see you exactly that way. If you are careless and you don’t look after people or objects as if it was your own, then you will receive exactly that. Others will be careless with you and your belongings. What You Ask For, You Get Any thought, any doubts or any questions you are broadcasting, in other words inviting it into your experience. There is a science to ‘thought broadcasting’ and thinking positive thoughts are not enough to make it happen. So, when life gives you lemons, it’s not enough to make lemonade … you have to taste it, drink it up, feel the cool and refreshing liquid run down your throat, and bask in the experience. It’s a corny analogy, but it makes a valid point. You have to feel your way through life. Feeling is the fuel to your thoughts. And… this doesn’t mean sitting on the couch thinking and feeling positive ways like – I really deserve that pay rise or I really want that promotion …. because you will be always left wanting whatever you are thinking or feeling. This is when action is key. Only with action can you create powerful transformation. No One Else Can Create Your Dreams No one can create your dreams, just as you cannot create anyone else’s dreams. That’s like working at changing someone or getting someone on board with your dream when there is no emotional connection or desire. This applies in every environment. If you work in a corporation or you are a leader of an organisation your only way to create any form of desire or motivation from another human being is if it comes from the individual himself or herself. Manifest Your Existence With quantum physics, we have more scientific proof that everything is energy and all we have to do is match ourselves to the frequency of the reality we want. Sounds easy right? Hmm. If only. How do we shut out all the external noise when we are working and living in a fast pace world that never stops? We need time and quiet to design our lives and to interpret the world around us and our place in it. Both of these things require conscious thought – to understand that we are the only ones who can make ourselves think or feel or react a certain way. Secondly, to take ownership of our immediate environment and when we find ourselves feeling ‘at odds’ take stock, review the situation and begin to understand our response. Act As A Mirror To Find Solutions If we can begin to see that everything around us is a reflection of us in some way shape or form, then we can learn a great deal about ourselves. We are here to learn from every human being. This is our gift, our teacher and our lessons to learn. It is up to you to how you feel every day, or whether you are going to have a good or bad day. We create our own realities, whether we are conscious of it or not. Most of us are unaware of the power of our thoughts and so react to life on auto-pilot and therefore create unconsciously. When we become aware that we are the creator of our reality, we can consciously choose different experiences, therefore create a different reality. When you are creating consciously, you can change your reality in an instance. And this is when the magic begins … because life begins to unfold, just the way YOU want it to.
At WaHhiki we believe there’s power in self-confidence. Here’s how to get it.
Here are the WaHiki team’s suggestions for a self confidence boost:
1. Strengthen your mind.
Self-confidence is a state of mind that can be achieved through intentional action. Taking a “WaHiki” (Time out in Māori) to nurture your mind, body and spirit (preferably one hour a day) can be done in a variety of ways. We prefer being in the water, exercise and mediation in the morning. If you’re not taking time for yourself, then you’re allowing someone or something to shape your view of the world.
2. Replace negative with positive.
A whole new branch of psychology is dedicated to mindfulness, but it boils down to this: Negative thoughts and insecurities will always pop up. So, mindfulness practice teaches you to treat thoughts as tools. Be mindful of negative thoughts, acknowledge them, discard them and replace with a positive thought. Controlling your mind is a journey so take your time to strengthen your mind.
3. Live a lifestyle of personal growth.
Putting yourself into courses or professional relationships that force you to grow ensures that you’re always expanding, which in turn generates confidence. From therapeutic programs to leadership programs to physical programs, committing to this kind of regular growth and showing up and being fully present are the keys to confidence.
4. Learn about impostor syndrome.
Many professionals will at some point experience a psychological phenomenon known as impostor syndrome, complete with feelings of inadequacy and a fear that everything accomplished to date has been through sheer luck. To overcome this, learn to internalize accomplishments. Peer groups are a great place to talk it out and build confidence.
5. Dress for success.
No matter what level of business you’re in, it’s important to dress for the client you want, rather than the client you have. There’s this idea of working from home in PJs. The most successful people get up early and dress like they’re off for a day at the office, and it’s reflected in their attitude. When you look good, you feel good and you’re more confident, too.
6. Take an improv class.
Improv classes make you think on your toes in front of an audience. Being on stage helps grow your confidence; being in front of crowds teaches you how to think and react quickly—all things that translate well to a boardroom or public speaking opportunity.
7. Produce a high-quality personal brand.
At WaHiki we believe that a key component to building self-confidence is in publicly building one’s own brand. This can be done through the creation of high-quality content like blog posts, e-books, podcasts or video content. Even if it doesn’t receive much traction initially, the fact that you have a body of work that you are proud to refer others to can make a big difference in your self-confidence.
8. Recognise your value outside of your work.
Your self-confidence needs to be rooted in who you are completely outside of your success in business. So find ways to get connected with yourself and grow. Perhaps volunteer, do pro-bono work, meditate, work out, read, hang out with friends. Whatever it takes for you to see your value regardless of how well [you’re doing professionally].
Here at WaHiki we are not only passionate about making the creamiest best tasting coconut ice cream available, but we are also passionate about looking, feeling and thinking the best.
Too often in society, we are taught that happiness comes from things that are external, and we can only feel happy if we have the next best thing.
The latest phone, the trendiest clothes, where and who we hang out with, the latest fragrance etc.
The list could drag on for miles.
At WaHiki, we are true believers that happiness comes from within. Take some time and think of the following questions.
What mental fuel are feeding yourself? Is it positive or negative?
What’s the quality of the food that you eat? Is it nourishing you or detrimental to you?
How do you maintain your body? Do you exercise regularly or not at all?
We recommend this daily exercise.
See if you can be mindful of your thoughts. Try it for a minute a day, then increase it for 5, 10, 20 min a day. Eventually, you will become adept at it. It’s not easy to begin with but well worth the effort in the long run.
The more mindful of your thoughts you are, the more you will see a pattern.
Are you constantly thinking about something that happened in your past? Do you find that you are always talking poorly to yourself?
Heck, we’re all human and make mistakes. Society as a whole is very judgemental and too often we feel we’re not good or worthy enough. Learn to forgive and let go.
So, go ahead.
Nourish your mind with positive thoughts that make you feel better about yourself.
Nourish your body with foods that are good for you. Go spoil yourself with a WāHiki Coconut Ice Cream. Check our website for the benefits and feel good about indulging in an ice cream that’s good for you.
Also, remember to nourish your body with regular exercise.
Most importantly people, take time out to enjoy yourself! YOU DESERVE IT!
Living a life you are not happy with is bad for your health.
Your emotional state and stress can have a large effect on your health, and over time will take a toll on your self.
While starting over in a new direction can be difficult, in time it will grant true happiness, fulfilment, and an overall healthier state.
The new direction is different for every person, yet we recognise there’s a common theme.
Feeling better, being better, doing better.
Thriving in your own self is a challenge all of us take on, one where we explore how to make our life more enjoyable, creative and longer. Making yourself feel better can take on small-scale changes that allow you to feel better.
You can try limiting certain ingredients of your diet. Limiting the amount of dairy, meat and alcohol can often make people feel better. Reducing the amount you consume gives your body more time to work at its peak rather than focusing on dealing with them.
Go for a walk, go see the sunset from the top of a volcano, little steps every day will help you with stamina, your tolerance for exercise and your appetite for good food.
A lot of people ask how to be better. The answer is simple, enjoy life more. Be that person at the office that has the aura of enjoying life. Your positivity and enthusiasm will rub off people, helping someone else be better.
So how are you going to be better? You’re working on feeling better, so what’s being better look like?
Live in the moment, and live in the future. Don’t look up, look out. You could call it “Better human being”.
When was the last time you caught up with your friends? With summer approaching fast, meet up with them for an ice cream – remember to ask for WaHiki 😉
Get away from the office with your co-workers. That could be your manager, CEO or Director, find out about the person behind the role. You’re on a common journey together, so how do you better face in the same direction?
Go meet an existing or potential client. Travel to somewhere new and meet the people there. Could you help them be better? How do they help you be better?
Take a time out. That might be from emails, phone calls or technology. That could be a 15 minute healthy break away from your desk to clear your mind.
By feeling better, and being better, doing better will come naturally.
You’ll see a change in the quality of your work, more empathetic to others, going that extra mile yourself so the next person in the chain (up or down), can do their work better.
Your attention to detail will likely increase. As you feel better, your ability to spot the little things increases. When you’re being better, you’re opening more doors and creating more opportunities.
If you take more pride in yourself, activate that energy, and follow it through, you’ll create, edit and see the future easier. Then you’ll do better.